Major Mum Guilt. 

Since having Archie I have only ever left him once over night and that was when I was admitted to hospital when he was a year old. Apart from this time I have never had a night away from him. 

I mean don’t get me wrong I have been out of an evening and had my parents babysit but never actually left him for longer than 11 hours at once. 

On Friday I am off to London, 2 and a half hours away from my hometown, for an overnight stay on a friends hen do. 

I know whilst I’m there I am going to have an amazing time. We’re off to Epsom races, then for a lovely dinner and drinks and the following day we’re having a spa day. 

I can’t wait to just be me again. Be someone other than Mummy. Let my hair down, have a few drinks and have lots of fun with my friends. But I just can’t shake the feeling of guilt. 

Should I be spending all this money on myself when surely there’s something Archie needs?

Am I depriving Archie from my attention working the day before I go, away for 2 days then working the day after I get back? 

Will he notice that I’m not around?

What if he needs me? 

Will he be ok without me? 

What if something happens? 

I know all these questions are irrational and Archie will be perfectly fine. He’s with his Daddy. Who he loves and adores. They will be having a ton of fun he won’t even notice I’m not there. 

I very rarely spend money on myself other than on essentials. I rarely treat myself so why do I feel so guilty. 

I think as mums we get judged whatever we do. If we go out often we’re judged. If we never go out we’re judged. 

It’ll be lovely for callum to spend quality time with Archie without me there and I can’t wait to hear about the adventures they get up I whilst I’m away. 

I’m going to try and enjoy this weekend away and use it as a learning curve. 

If any of you have suffered with major mum guilt then please give me tips on how to cope with it. 

Love Tilly & Archie xx

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A letter to Archie on his 2nd Birthday. 

A massive Happy 2nd Birthday to our little boy Archie

2 whole years ago you came into my life, turned my whole world upside down. Taught me how to love, treasure and care for you. Taught me how to be selfless, to grow and to be strong for you. 

You gave me a meaning to my life. A purpose. 

Nothing in the world means more to me than you do. I love everything about you. Your smile, your laugh, your dimples, your big brown eyes, the way you wrap your arms around my neck and tell me you love me. 

You give me the drive to succeed and the will power to work hard. Your the reason I wake up with a smile on my face and the reason I’m exhausted at the end of each day. 

You mean the absolute world to me little one and I am forever eternally grateful that you came into our lives. 

Mummy & Daddy love you all the world. We hope your day is as special as you are 💙

Archie: 2 Years old. 

Happy 2nd Birthday Archie. 

I can’t believe I have a 2 year old. I’m just as emotional as I was on his first birthday. I just can’t believe how grown up he is, he’s a full blown little boy now, no longer a baby.

His speech is absolutely amazing I cant get over how many words and phrases he says. He can count to 7 without needing prompting (and sometimes 10), tell you all his body parts, primary colours, name 20 or more different animals and their sounds they make and is just generally an all round loving kind little boy.

He eats me out of house and home and is growing like there’s no tomorrow. He is in size 2-3 mostly not but still fits in a lot of his 18-24 month clothing and his feet are now a whopping size 7F.

He is such an inquisitive, adventurous little boy. He loves nothing more than exploring the great outdoors whether that be on a walk or on his scooter. He is definitely a boys boy. Loves playing in the dirt, climbing things and kicking a ball about.

This week we have handed in his application form to start pre school in September. I can’t believe I actually have a 2 year old and in 6 months he is going to start pre school. When did my baby grow up and get so big. He makes me so proud every day. I can’t shout his praises loud enough. I want everyone to hear about him, be around him and witness the fun and joy he brings.

He truly is a loving thoughtful little boy and I’m so proud that I am his Mummy.

Happy 2nd Birthday Archie. I hope your day is as special as you are.

Love Tilly & Archie xx

Archie: 23 Months Old. 

Wow what a month it has been. Archie has developed in so many ways this month. One more month until he is 2. I’m just not ready to have a 2 year old. I’ve been trying to hold onto anything that makes him feel more like a baby rather than a toddler but there just isn’t anything left. He’s growing day by day right before my eyes and however proud he makes me, I always feel that spark of sadness how he no longer needs me, how independent he is becoming and how he isn’t a baby anymore.

This is the month where we finally bought our first family home. I am beyond excited to fill our lovely family home with hundreds of memories. I have wrote a blog post on our journey with our house so I’ll link that here if you want to go check it out.

Archie amazed me this month in his swimming lessons and swam the width of the pool on his own (in armbands). I am beyond proud of him. He has been having lessons since he was 3 months and I can’t believe how confident he is in the water. He jumps in, dives under and is now swimming by himself. Not only does he love his lessons but it is also teaching him a valuable life lesson too. Enrolling him into his swimming classes is honestly one of the best things I have done.

As you all know, Archie has always been the perfect sleeper. He’s slept through the night since he was a newborn and I’ve always loved that about him. Recently he has been waking up anywhere between 1 and 3 and staying awake all night. If I’m lucky I can bring him in my bed with me and he will go back to sleep but 90% of the time if we wakes up around 3/4am he is generally wide awake and ready to play. There is no putting him back down to sleep. I’m not sure why this is happening, if he is hungry, having nightmares or of it is just because routine has been hit and miss recently.

Other than Archie’s sleeping being off, everything else is pretty much the same. He is repeating everything he hears, talking sentences of around 5/6 words and can now count to 7. He knows his primary colours, a few shapes were now starting on the alphabet. I love how quickly he learns things and how eager he is to learn. He loves sitting and reading books, learning through play and learning through songs.

We’ve spent a lot of time wrapped up toasty warm exploring the outdoors. Since Christmas I feel as though we was stuck in a lot either inside the house or in the car travelling so I wanted to make a point of being outside exploring. We’ve been for walks down the beach, country parks and up cliff tops. I love nothing more than watching Archie explore the great outdoors.

Next month we are going to be celebrating Archies 2nd birthday and I honestly can’t believe how quickly this year has gone. I feel like the 2nd year has gone so much quicker than his 1st. Before we know it my little bundle of love is going to be going off to nursery and then big school and to be honest I don’t even think I can cope with that thought right now.

If any of you have any small gift ideas that I can get Archie for his 2nd birthday then please leave them in the comments below. I need a couple more ideas to go with things I already have for him.

Love Tilly & Archie xx

 

Archie: 22 Months Old

Another month that has flown by, another month older. 22 months old. I just can’t believe it. I have a full blown boy. A toddler.

Archie is still in 18-24 month clothing with the occasional 2-3 years depending on where it’s from. He is weighing in at 25.5lbs. Last month Archie dropped down from 27lbs to 25.5 lbs and has been at that weight for the last 8 weeks. I think where he is more active now he is burning off a lot of the food he eats appose to storing it.

A week or so ago we attempted to measure his height, he is roughly just under 3 ft. For a toddler this is crazy! I knew he was going to be tall as I’m 5ft 11 and Callum us 6ft 2 but I never thought that he would be nearly 3 ft at under 2 years old.

Archie is now able to say sentences of up to 5 words at a time. He will join words together himself and repeat phrases you say to him. He now randomly says words that I didn’t know he knew. We can be in the car and he will shout out something he spots. Its lovely to see how quickly he is learning and remembering words and phrases.

Last month I touched on how Archie had become really clingy to both Callum and myself. The last few weeks he has been so much better. He now tells me every morning that Daddy has gone to work but he doesn’t cry out for him anymore. He will occasionally get upset when Callum first leaves but can be distracted pretty quickly. With myself he still gets a little upset when I leave for work but as with Callum is getting a lot better. Its such a relief that it was just a phase and that things are going back to normal. I hate leaving him to go to work at the best of times, let alone when hes screaming the place down and shouting out for Mummy.

This month has been a month of festivities. We have been getting into the Christmas spirit with visits to the German bar, vising Father Christmas, beach walks and present wrapping. We had a lovely Christmas at home with my parents, sister and Grandad and then a lovely 2nd Christmas on Boxing Day with Callum’s parents in Tewkesbury.

That’s pretty much all I have to update on this month. Until next month where well only be 1 month away from Archie’s 2nd birthday. How is that even possible!

Love Tilly & Archie xx

Stocking Fillers For Toddlers.

A couple of days ago I posted a Toddler Gift Guide. In that guide I named 6 items that I have got Archie this Christmas from myself and Callum. This post is going to contain items that Father Christmas has got him in his stocking. I have tried to keep the cost down but those of you with children will know that its really hard to not buy when you see things you know your child will like (this is definitely something I need to work on).

Some of these things I have bought throughout the year when I have seen them or they’ve been in a sale and put away especially for Christmas so may not be available anymore. I’m going to try and link each item where it is from but if I cant then I’ll link something similar.

So here goes..

That is everything that I got Archie for his sack from Father Christmas. I hope you enjoyed reading about the types of things Archie is getting for Christmas and that it has given you inspiration for your children’s gifts.

Love Tilly & Archie xx

 

Toddler Gift Guide. 

This year Archie is going to be 22 months old at Christmas. I looked online for some present ideas but for one year olds they were too young for him and for two year olds they were slightly too old.

I decided to put together a list of items that we have got Archie this year. We haven’t gone crazy on presents as last year he got far to many for his birthday and Christmas which he still plays with and we don’t have the room to store them.

We tried to go for things that he could play with throughout the year so things that were slightly too old for him now that would benefit him in a couple of months and things he can play with now.

We spent a fair amount of money on his sack from Father Christmas rather than presents from us as we knew this is something he would enjoy more and find more magical.

Below is a list of things we got Archie from us. I will writing a separate post with stocking filler ideas.

1. Micro Mini 3 in 1 Scooter – John Lewis £89.99

micro-mini-scooterWe decided to get this for Archie as he has a trike already and a ride on. This scooter is recommended for ages between 1 and 3. The seat and round handle can be removed when the child is able to balance properly and the handle bar can be attached for the child to use between  and 5 years. The seat is height adjustable which is a big hit for us as Archie is tall for his age. The scooter also comes in green, blue, and pink.

 

2. Fisher Price Talking Bing – Very £16.99

bingI actually got this for Archie from Sainsbury’s during the half price toy event a couple of months ago for £15. I have however found it on Very for £16.99 which is the cheapest place I can find it now. When pressing Bings tummy he sings and said lots of fun things. The recommended age for this is 2 years.

 

4. Fisher Price Thomas & Friends Mobile Phone £11.00thomas-mobile-phone

Archie actually saw this and asked for it when we was doing a spot of Christmas shopping in Boots. Luckily it is included in the 3 for 2 deal so I managed to get it for free. I have put this away as a little extra for him as I don’t normally let him get toys when he asks for them when were out shopping. He absolutely loves talking on the phone to people and will literally use any object and pretend it is a phone. It has a large easy to press keypad which plays sounds and lots of phrases from Thomas and Friends. Recommended for ages 18+ Months.

5. Diddy the Dinosaur & Mickey the Monkey Hand Puppets – WH Smith £7.9monkey-puppet9 each. 

Last year for Christmas I got Archie some puppets from WH Smith, a hedgehog and a fox, and he absolutely loves them. He thinks it is hilarious to have puppet shows and put on silly voices so I got a couple more for 38430077_1the collection. This year I have gone for  a monkey and a dinosaur. They are suitable from birth so that is a massive hit as any age can benefit from these furry friends.

 

6.Thomas & Friends Story Carry Case – M&S £8.99thomas-and-friends-book

As you can probably tell Archie is obsessed with Thomas the Tank Engine. I saw this carry case of 5 story books in M&S and just had to get it. I love that Archie can
carry this case around with him and take his books on his adventures rather than  have them shoved in my bag. This item does state that it is not suitable for children under 36 months but he will be supervised when using them.

 

I’m going to leave the Toddler Gift Guide list there as I have got Archie a few other bits but they are little little bits personal to him that he will love.

If you have any ideas of gifts you think Archie will enjoy then please leave suggestions in the comments below, his birthday is in February and I’m stuck for ideas.

Thanks for reading.

Love Tilly & Archie xx

 

Archie: 21 Months Old

 

21 months old. I feel like every month I am just saying the same thing to you guys. Writing the same updates just on a different month. I think I am going to continue these monthly updates until Archie’s 2nd Birthday then I will only update as and when there is something to  update.

For now though I’ll update you all on all the things we’ve been up to this month and how Archie has changed. Archie’s speech has come on massively this month. He can now string a sentences of 3-4 words together. He is repeating everything he hears, words and sounds, and they are sticking with him.

I weighed Archie this month and he is 27lbs although he feels so much heavier. He is in 18-24 month clothes although some handmade clothes he has are made in size 2-3 as they come up smaller.

We have had quite a busy month this month, we’ve had Callum’s parents come visit us, we’ve been to visit them, had Halloween with pumpkin picking and Callum’s birthday. It feels like this month has flown by where we have been so busy.

Unfortunately Archie has become a little clingy this month. Both Callum and myself have been working a lot and putting in a lot of overtime at work to get money for our house. I think this mixed with going away and mixing up our normal routine has put him out of sorts. I’m hoping it doesn’t last too long as it breaks my heart when I have to leave him for work.

Archie is still loving arts and crafts this month. We have done a lot of colouring, painting, sticking and ripping. We have made so many things to put with our families Christmas presents, but I will share them in a post through blogmas.

The weather has finally changed and it feels like proper winter. The air is crisp and there are frosty mornings. We have spent a lot of time going to the park and playing in the leaves, going for wintry walks down the beach and jumping in puddles. I’m finding it really hard at the moment to wear Archie out. If you have any suggestions please leave them below of fun things we can do to keep Archie entertained and wear him out when the weather is bad. This Mummy is running out of ideas.

Love Tilly & Archie xx

 

Archie: 20 Months Old. 

Its been 2 years this months since we found out we were having a baby boy and what a 2 years it has been. Archie is now 20 months old. This feels so much older than 19 months. Archie is getting scarily close to 2 now. In 4 short months I’m going to have a 2 year old and I can already tell it’s going to absolutely fly by. With Christmas half way through that and hopefully a house move, it is going to be a crazy few months that’s for sure.

This month we have tackled the bottles. Archie is no longer having bottles at bedtime and in the morning but instead having a sippy cup of milk. He actually did this himself with out us even trying to. Unfortunately he had a fall in John Lewis a couple of weeks ago where he split his chin open cut the roof of his mouth and chipped a tooth. When it came to bedtime that night, his mouth was too sore to suck on the teat of a bottle so I put his milk in one of his cups he uses in the day which he took fine. The next morning the same thing happened so I gave him his cup and he didn’t notice it wasn’t a bottle. So since then I haven’t offered the bottle just given him his milk in a cup and packed the bottles away.

Activity wise we haven’t actually done a lot this month. Callum and I have done a lot of house viewings on the weekends which pretty much rights off the whole weekend as Saturday is the only day we all have together as I work Sundays. Around house viewings we have had many park dates, beach walks and autumnal activities.

One of Archie’s favourite things to do at the moment is arts and crafts. He could spend hours colouring, sticking stickers and painting. We have made lots of masterpiece recently with finger painting, leaf sticking, pumpkin painting and colouring. I love to sit back and watch what Archie does when put in front of crafts and the pictures he makes. To see him explore the colours and learn what each activity creates.

Archie’s vocabulary is coming on amazingly. He repeats everything he hears now. He can count up to 3, name 3 colours; blue, red and green, can tell you what sound a dozen animals make and can say well over 100 words.  I cant believe how fast he is growing up he is turning into a proper little boy. Nearly all of his baby traits are being replaced by big boy traits and as much as I love watching him grow into a clever little boy I wish time would slow down.

Archie is still in some 12-18 clothing but mainly in 18-24 now, all be it is a little big. Hes so skinny yet so tall that he needs the size up for length but the trousers are forever falling down. I got his feet measured this week as he had grown out of his Vans and he is now a 6.5F. This boy is going to cost us a fortune in shoes. He grows out of them every 4-6 weeks.

I cant wait to see what the next month brings with our little whirlwind.

Love Tilly & Archie xx