Major Mum Guilt. 

Since having Archie I have only ever left him once over night and that was when I was admitted to hospital when he was a year old. Apart from this time I have never had a night away from him. 

I mean don’t get me wrong I have been out of an evening and had my parents babysit but never actually left him for longer than 11 hours at once. 

On Friday I am off to London, 2 and a half hours away from my hometown, for an overnight stay on a friends hen do. 

I know whilst I’m there I am going to have an amazing time. We’re off to Epsom races, then for a lovely dinner and drinks and the following day we’re having a spa day. 

I can’t wait to just be me again. Be someone other than Mummy. Let my hair down, have a few drinks and have lots of fun with my friends. But I just can’t shake the feeling of guilt. 

Should I be spending all this money on myself when surely there’s something Archie needs?

Am I depriving Archie from my attention working the day before I go, away for 2 days then working the day after I get back? 

Will he notice that I’m not around?

What if he needs me? 

Will he be ok without me? 

What if something happens? 

I know all these questions are irrational and Archie will be perfectly fine. He’s with his Daddy. Who he loves and adores. They will be having a ton of fun he won’t even notice I’m not there. 

I very rarely spend money on myself other than on essentials. I rarely treat myself so why do I feel so guilty. 

I think as mums we get judged whatever we do. If we go out often we’re judged. If we never go out we’re judged. 

It’ll be lovely for callum to spend quality time with Archie without me there and I can’t wait to hear about the adventures they get up I whilst I’m away. 

I’m going to try and enjoy this weekend away and use it as a learning curve. 

If any of you have suffered with major mum guilt then please give me tips on how to cope with it. 

Love Tilly & Archie xx

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30 Things to do before I’m 30.

Now that I am 25. I have decided to put a list together of 30 things I want to do before I’m 30. 

I have seen many of these around and we all know that I am a sucker for a list. So here is my list of thing I would like to achieve before I’m 30. 

Some of the things on this list aren’t in my hands to complete but the majority are things that I can make happen. 

  1. Get engaged 
  2. Dye my hair blonde again (and stay blonde)
  3. Get married
  4. Complete our family with more children 
  5. Extend our family home 
  6. Start my own business 
  7. Take a cross country road trip 
  8. Skydive 
  9. Visit a country both Callum and I  never been to 
  10. Plant a tree 
  11. Take a family holiday abroad 
  12. Go to a music festival 
  13. Have a boob job 
  14. Spend more time with family
  15. Have my own career 
  16. Learn to cook (better)
  17. Start a retirement fund 
  18. Start vlogging our family life 
  19. Learn a new language 
  20. Get a tattoo 
  21. Visit New York 
  22. More date nights or time focused on our relationship 
  23. Take Archie to Disneyworld Orlando Florida
  24. Focus on my family 
  25. Have a girls get away
  26. Learn to love myself 
  27. Stop holding grudges 
  28. Completely decorate our house 
  29. Take care of my body 
  30. And finally make a list of 40 things to do before I turn 40. 

I can’t wait to see how many of these I get to cross off this list within the next 5 years or what the following years bring our family. 

Love Tilly & Archie xx 

Moving Hacks

Having just bought our first house, I have been trowelling the internet looking for tips on moving house. I have lived with my parents for 24 years so this is going to be the first time I move house. Callum however has moved around since a young age due to his parents being in the army.

I am going to share with you my favourite moving and packing hacks and how they benefited us.

1. CLEAR OUT!

My number one tip for moving house which can be done before moving is to have a massive clear out. Now is the perfect time to clear out junk you haven’t used in forever, clothes you haven’t worn and rubbish you have accumulated over time. Make a keep, dump and donate pile. Dump the rubbish and donate the rest. When pulling rooms apart you find a lot of stuff that’s been forgotten about. If you haven’t used it in a year chances are you wont use it again. Get rid. This is also a good time to return items you may have borrowed from friends and family. 

2. Use materials to wrap. 

This is going to save you a fortune on bubble wrap. We didn’t buy any bubble wrap to move with and just used bits we had from Christmas presents we ordered online. All our kitchen dishes, glassware, ornaments and breakables we wrapped up in dishcloths, towels, scarfs and clothing. Not only does this save money on bubble wrap and tissue paper, it also saves space on packing as your packing two things at once.

3. Use things you have already to store items.

Instead of buying cardboard boxes to move, we used the things we already had. Wicker baskets, plastic containers, shoe boxes and boxes we had lying around from online orders. Everything that can be filled fill. Shoes can be stuffed with socks to save space. Handbags, shoppers and suitcases are great examples of ways to transport your clothing or items without having to purchase boxes.

4. Free boxes.

Following on from packing up, if you still have things that need to be packed or that are too big to fit in your smaller bags, then collect free boxes. Most supermarkets such a M&S, Asda, Sainsburys and Tesco are always happy to give you free cardboard boxes when requested.

5. Don’t take your clothes off the hangers. 

I don’t really have many clothes that I hang but Callum does so this benefited him more than me. Leave your clothes on the hangers, put a bin bag over the clothes and tie at the top so all clothing is stacked together and ready to just hang in new house and remove bin bags. This saves time both ends of having to fold and re hang your clothing.

6. Label every box.

One of the mot important thing to do once youve packed up your boxes is to label them with room names. There is nothing worse than hauling a heavy box up the stairs to the bedroom when it is meant for the kitchen. This way when everyone is helping you move they know which box needs to go in which room.

7. Label every wire. 

When moving house make sure you label every wire. Put an elastic band with a tag on stating what each wire is for. That way no wires will get confused when unpacking again.

8. Take photos. 

Take photos of what things look like and how they are set up. Before dismantling things take a photo of what it looks likes up and how it was decorated. This will save time when putting things back together in the new house.

9. Essentials Bag

Pack the essentials you are going to need in a bag. Things you will need immediately after moving in. Change of clothing, toothbrush, chargers ect. Leave that bag in your own car in case removal van takes longer to arrive than you do. This is a tip a friend of mine gave me which we didn’t need to use as we didn’t use a removal company, but I still think it’s a great tip so I couldn’t resist sharing. 

10. Sort Screws.

A tip that my Dad gave me was to sort the screws. Make sure that when dismantling something you keep all the screws for that item in a sandwich bag. Write on the sandwich bag what the screws are for and attach it to the item. This saves you hunting for the correct screws when putting it back up again.

There you have my top 10 tips for packing and moving house. Next week I will post on moving with a toddler.

Thanks for reading.

Love Tilly & Archie xx

HOME SWEET HOME. 

And just like that we’re in. Our little family home. 

To say this week has been stressful would be an understatement. After 9 weeks of hard hard work. And a week of moving furniture, belongings, building flat pack, sorting and cleaning. We’ve done it. We’re in. Just in time for Mothers Day. 

Thing are still all up in the air, boxes still need to be unpacked. We need to find homes for everything. Shelves need to be put up and everything needs a sort through. But we’re in and I can’t even begin to explain how excited I am. Our first family home. Where we can make memories with our little boy. 

I’m going to do before and after shots of each room but not until we’ve got shelves and photos up ect. So thy might take a couple of months for everything to settle. But here are some photos of where we’re at so far. 


Love Tilly & Archie xx

Project House: Week 8.

We have carpets!!

I can’t even begin to tell you how much this excites me. The difference carpets makes is amazing. It is actually starting to look more and more like a home rather than an ongoing project now. 

We have also had the rest of our bathroom fitted so we finally have a working bath toilet and sink!! We haven’t done anything with the bathroom as of yet apart from completely tear up and relay the floor boards, fix a leak and change the bath toilet and sink. We’re hoping to re tile it later on in the summer so for now we’ve just got the broken tiles that was here when we bought the house and an off cut of carpet to line the floor. 

Whilst the carpet fitters were fitting our carpet, I took the opportunity to start tacking the garden and all the over grown half dead trees that are scattered through out our garden. I managed to tear down two trees (just leaving a stump) with my bare hands and a crappy pair of securters from Poundland. Just by taking out these little trees, it has already opened up the end of the garden a lot. 

Unfortunately the carpet fitters can broke down the morning of our fitting so we had to wait for another fitter to be free to come to us so they could only fit the rooms to start so we’ve had to wait until the end of the week to get the stairs and landing fitter. 

Now that the carpet is in, we can finally start bringing over some of our furniture and building the smaller bits here getting it ready to move in. We’re hoping we will be in by next week so going to try and bring things over in stages rather than all at once. 

This bit has by far been my favourite stage. We’ve started making it look and feel like a home and the end is in sight. I just can’t wait to move in and be living here now!! 

The next update will most likely be one saying we’re in!!! So if any of you have any tips and tricks for moving they would be greatly appreciated. 


Love Tilly & Archie xxx 

Project House: Week 7. 


This is the week where significant things have taken place. It has been the week of panic. Next week we are having our carpets fitted so we have been running around trying to get everything done that needs to be done before the carpets go down.  

A massive thing that happened this week was we got our new windows and doors fitted and they look amazing. I can’t believe how much brighter the house is with white windows apose to brown!! Not only does the colour of the windows make a dramatic difference, but having double glazing spouse to single glazing is amazing. It blocks out so much noise (not that our tiny cul-de-sac is noisy) and keeps the house toasty warm. 

We have had to have the frames round the windows and doors replastered as they got damaged taking the old windows out so we have now got a lot of painting to do touching up around those areas. 

I have mainly focussed on getting the odd bits and bobs sorted in time for carpets. Plug sockets changed, new sockets installed, painting finished and holes filled. All these things have been very fine consuming. 

Another huge thing that has happened this week is we have had our bath installed in our bathroom. Unfortunately it was a bigger job than first thought so the toilet and sink are getting installed the beginning of next week but we finally have some of our bathroom put back together. 

It has been a busy busy week but by next week when we have carpet down it is going to be oh so worth it. 

Love Tilly & Archie xx


Project House: Week 6:

How has it been 6 weeks since we got the keys to our house. In some ways it feels like we haven’t done a lot to it in that period of time and in others it feels like we have done so much.

This week things have really started taking shape. Now that the bedrooms are finished we have been able to work on the landing and down the stairs. Having the first coat on the stairs has made a massive difference. Not only is he banister now all painted white, the walls have their first coat of grey on and it really gives us an idea of how the end result is going to look.

We had the man round to measure the house for carpets this week so we have been able to order the carpets and set a date for them to be fitted (less than two weeks. Can you believe it). I cant wait for carpets to be in, it will really transform the house and we will be able to start getting some of the bigger furniture into the rooms that are finished. At this stage I’m a little bit worried that were not going to have everything done in time for the carpets to be fitted but we shall just okay it by ear. 

Towards the end of this week, the entire bathroom got ripped out and the flooring put back down as the old flooring had gone rotten and started to crumble. We have bought a whole new bathroom suite and hopefully that will get fitted next week. 

Unfortunately the windows aren’t in yet like I had hoped but they are getting started Monday. Next week is a big week for things to be done as it’s the last full week my parents are here before they go to  Australia for nearly a month. Not only is my Dad a massive hep with decorating our place, but my Mum has Archie so I can go over and paint. 

Sorry here hasn’t been much to report this week, that dodgy bathroom has taken up a lot of the week. Next week we will have new electrics windows and hopefully a painted living room. 

Love Tilly & Archie xx

A letter to Archie on his 2nd Birthday. 

A massive Happy 2nd Birthday to our little boy Archie

2 whole years ago you came into my life, turned my whole world upside down. Taught me how to love, treasure and care for you. Taught me how to be selfless, to grow and to be strong for you. 

You gave me a meaning to my life. A purpose. 

Nothing in the world means more to me than you do. I love everything about you. Your smile, your laugh, your dimples, your big brown eyes, the way you wrap your arms around my neck and tell me you love me. 

You give me the drive to succeed and the will power to work hard. Your the reason I wake up with a smile on my face and the reason I’m exhausted at the end of each day. 

You mean the absolute world to me little one and I am forever eternally grateful that you came into our lives. 

Mummy & Daddy love you all the world. We hope your day is as special as you are 💙

Archie: 2 Years old. 

Happy 2nd Birthday Archie. 

I can’t believe I have a 2 year old. I’m just as emotional as I was on his first birthday. I just can’t believe how grown up he is, he’s a full blown little boy now, no longer a baby.

His speech is absolutely amazing I cant get over how many words and phrases he says. He can count to 7 without needing prompting (and sometimes 10), tell you all his body parts, primary colours, name 20 or more different animals and their sounds they make and is just generally an all round loving kind little boy.

He eats me out of house and home and is growing like there’s no tomorrow. He is in size 2-3 mostly not but still fits in a lot of his 18-24 month clothing and his feet are now a whopping size 7F.

He is such an inquisitive, adventurous little boy. He loves nothing more than exploring the great outdoors whether that be on a walk or on his scooter. He is definitely a boys boy. Loves playing in the dirt, climbing things and kicking a ball about.

This week we have handed in his application form to start pre school in September. I can’t believe I actually have a 2 year old and in 6 months he is going to start pre school. When did my baby grow up and get so big. He makes me so proud every day. I can’t shout his praises loud enough. I want everyone to hear about him, be around him and witness the fun and joy he brings.

He truly is a loving thoughtful little boy and I’m so proud that I am his Mummy.

Happy 2nd Birthday Archie. I hope your day is as special as you are.

Love Tilly & Archie xx