Anxieties Of Having A Second Child 

I’m not going to lie since planning our second child I have worried ALOT about how Archie will react and adapt to not being an only child.

For the first 2 years of his life he lived in a house with 4 other adults so he got a lot of attention. He was the first grandchild / nephew for both myself and Callum’s family so as you can imagine he was extremely spoilt for attention.

When discussing the idea of having another baby, I always worried about how it would affect Archie. Don’t get me wrong I know he will be an amazing big brother. He’s so kind and affectionate and absolutely loves babies. But I always hated the idea that he would feel left out or replaced. It is a worry I have had from the very beginning.

His whole world is going to change. He’s not going to be the only child any more. He’s not going to have my undivided attention day in and day out. There’s going to be another little piece to our family puzzle. His little brother or sister. And whilst I know he’s going to be the best big brother, that small part of me still feels guilt and sadness that it is a big change for him. He won’t be an only child any more. He’ll have to share his Mummy and Daddy as well as his time, house and all his belongings.

As my pregnancy has progressed and my tummy has got bigger, I have tried to explain to him as best I can what it’s going to be like to be a big brother. I want him to always feel involved and never pushed away. We build furniture for the baby together, shop for clothes or necessities and even hug and kiss my belly so he can start to bond with the baby. I hope that in doing these things then he will become slowly aware of the changes that are about to take place and it not be such a big shock when it happens.

I tell him every day how much I love him and how special he is to me, these are two things I never want him to forget or doubt.

It’s going to be a huge change for us all going from a family of three to a family of four and the dynamic is going to change a lot. But I can not wait to see where this journey takes us, to watch Archie perfect his role as a big brother and for our family to grow not only by size but by love also.

I know in my heart that the gift he is getting is a gift for life. He’ll love and appreciate his sibling just as we do him. The bond they will have is like no other and for that, I can not wait.

Love Tilly, Archie & Bump xx


100 Things I did in 2017

This is the 4th year now of writing these posts on New Years and recapping on all the adventures we have had during the year. Here are 100 things thank I did during 2017. 

  1. Walked Lulworth cove on New Years Day
  2. Bought a house 
  3. Renovated a house 
  4. Lots and lots and lots of painting the house 
  5. Many Ikea trips 
  6. Moved into our first family home
  7. Completely ripped out the garden 
  8. Archie learnt to sing the alphabet
  9. Archie turned 2 
  10. Built a playhouse for Archie 
  11. Softplay adventures 
  12. Went on an Easter egg hunt
  13. Got my driving liscence back 
  14. Completed another level in Archie’s swimming lessons 
  15. Went to visit one of my besties after the birth of her beautiful daughter Harriett Ivy 
  16. I turned 25 
  17. Went on a road trip 
  18. Walked through a waterfall 
  19. Hired a boat for the day 
  20. Went to Scotland 
  21. Stayed at the Lake District (Lake Windermere) 
  22. Visited my family in Leeds 
  23. Another bestie gave birth to the gorgeous Theo Jack 
  24. Celebrated my 3rd Mother’s Day
  25. Celebrated callums 3rd Father’s Day
  26. Handmade Valentine’s Day cards 
  27. Had many Beach walks 
  28. Threw a garden party 
  29. Had many BBQs 
  30. Planted our own allotment in our garden and grew peas, runner beans and pumpkins 
  31. Sent Archie’s dummy to the dummy fairies 
  32. Had water fights with the neighbours 
  33. Had BBQs at Mum and Dads 
  34. Taught Archie how to ride a scooter 
  35. Went on my first girls weekend away since having Archie 
  36. Went to Epsom races with the girls 
  37. Had the best spa day in London 
  38. Drank my body weight in alcohol on the hen weekend 
  39. Watched 3 of my friends get married 
  40. Watched the air show 
  41. Went to Upton country park 
  42. Celebrated my cousin turning 30 with. BBQ garden party 
  43. Went to honey brook farm 
  44. Went to London zoo to feed the giraffes 
  45. Potty trained Archie 
  46. Cut out the negative nellies from my life 
  47. Built a snug under our stairs 
  48. Swam in the sea 
  49. Went on the land train at Hengitsbury Head
  50. Went to 2 christenings 
  51. Had pool parties in our garden 
  52. Had the girls over for prosecco in the summer 
  53. Won an amazing comp on Instagram from Bearandbabe
  54. Went on a spa day with my bestie 
  55. Archie went in a fire engine (his highlight of the year) 
  56. Callum and I had a date day in London 
  57. Bought some special Christmas decorations from the Disney store 
  58. Took Archie to his first messy play session (he hated it) 
  59. Went to many birthday parties 
  60. Had callums sister stay with us 
  61. Visited the Bluebell forest 
  62. Took many trips to Tewkesbury to visit callums family 
  63. Took up sewing an taught myself how to make leggings for Archie 
  64. Fell pregnant with baby Smith #2
  65. Had severe morning sickness again 
  66. Had countless trips to hospital for baby smiths little scares 
  67. Told Archie he’s going to be a big brother
  68. Saw my best friend from NZ after 4 long years
  69. Read Zoellas book club 2017 
  70. Threw a Halloween party with Archies friends 
  71. Picked pumpkins from Sopley Mill
  72. Sister came back from Australia after a year 
  73. Picked sister up from airport and surprise mum and dad (watch vlog here) 
  74. Went trick or treating 
  75. Wat he’s the fireworks on bonfire night 
  76. Archie started pre school
  77. Had many girls nights 
  78. Found out 3 of my besties are pregnant 
  79. Helped out at my auntie and uncles allotment 
  80. Took Archie on lots of “adventures” 
  81. Became brand reps / enthusiasts / embassadors for the best insta shops
  82. Waved to the dustbin men weekly 
  83. Watched Archie grow into a little boy rather than a toddler 
  84. Made tons of crafts 
  85. Fed the ducks 
  86. Heard our baby’s heartbeat for the first and second time 
  87. Went to look at the Christmas lights at Runton Road 
  88. Had many film nights 
  89. Took a visit to the German bar 
  90. Decorated our own house for Christmas 
  91. Went to visit Father Christmas (a much more successful trip this year)
  92. Had Dobby the elf stay with us the whole of December 
  93. Gorgeous Albie James was born to Archies godfather and his wife 
  94. Had our first Christmas as a family in our own home 
  95. Bought Archie a ride on tractor for the garden (he absolutely loves it)
  96. Had Callums family stay with us for NYE 
  97. Started planning Archie’s 3rd Birthday 
  98. Enjoyed buying baby bits all over again 
  99. Had amazing moments with my little family 
  100. Made memories that I’ll treasure forever 

What a year 2017 has been. It has been one of my favourite years since having Archie. 

I can not wait to see what 2018 has in store for us. A new baby brother or sister for Archie and to start life as a family of four. 

Happy new year to you all, may it be filled with love laughter and happiness. 

Love Tilly, Archie and Little Peach xx